Why Some Men Prefer to Visit Prostitutes Over Having a Girlfriend or Wife

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Prostitutes are better because...
Prostitutes don't say "I can't. I have a boyfriend."

Prostitutes don't say "No thanks. I didn't think we clicked."

Prostitutes don't say "You're not my type."

Prostitutes don't say "I think you're too old."

Prostitutes say "Do you want to get together? Do you want me to come over?"

Prostitutes don't care if you're unemployed or if you have an unimpressive or low-paying job.

Prostitutes don't care if you drive an old or inexpensive car.

Prostitutes don't care if you're not handsome or if you're short or overweight.

Prostitutes don't care if you're not a good conversationalist.

Prostitutes don't care if you are married.

Prostitutes don't care if you have been divorced three times or six times or if you have children by several ex-wives or ex-girlfriends.

Unless you are young, rich, tall, and handsome, you can probably have sex with prostitutes who are much younger and prettier than anyone you could date or marry.

More than is true of most women, if you are nice to a prostitute, she'll be nice to you.

In an ideal world, all women would be as affectionate and accommodating as prostitutes are. But this isn't an ideal world.

Sex with prostitutes tends to prevent you from being too dependent, sexually or emotionally, on other women.

If you limit your sexual activity to prostitutes and girlfriends and don't get married, you won't marry a young, thin, pretty woman when you're young and find yourself married to an old, fat, no longer pretty woman when you're old. When you're 60 you'll be able to enjoy the company of prostitutes who are as young and pretty as the women you were having sex with when you were 25.

Prostitutes won't accuse you of "sexual harassment" because you tell her you'd like to be sexually involved with her or ask her for a date or tell her a dirty joke or tell her how pretty or sexy she is or how much you love her.

Unlike many if not most wives and even many girlfriends, prostitutes will have sex with you whenever you want - and not just when she happens to be in the mood.

Sociology research has shown that old joke is actually true: Married men are prostitutes' best customers. This wouldn't be true if marriage were all it's cracked up to be.

Unlike many other women, prostitutes do, or let you do, oral sex if that's what you want. In fact, in one survey, oral sex was the type of sexual activity most often requested of and engaged in by prostitutes.

A prostitute won't threaten to break up with you or actually leave you because you won't marry her.

Prostitutes don't care if you call her only when you really want to.

Prostitutes don't care who else you have sex with.

Prostitutes don't ask jealous questions.

With prostitutes, you won't go crazy from jealousy, either, since you never expected her to be faithful to you in the first place, and the other men in her life aren't going to make her unavailable to you, or make you look bad because you have an unfaithful wife or girlfriend, or cause you to raise a child who isn't yours, or pay child support for a child she had with some other man but claims is yours, or wait for the results of expensive DNA paternity testing needed to prove it isn't your child. (DNA paternity testing has proved that about one in ten children have a different biological father than the man the mother says is the father, including many married women.)

Contrary to popular misinformation, public health researchers studying the legal brothels in Nevada found you are unlikely to contract a sexually transmitted disease from a prostitute. This is not necessarily true of drug-addicted streetwalkers, however.

A disadvantage of sex with prostitutes is needing to use a condom, both for your own protection and because she'll insist on it. However, you often need to use a condom for your own protection with women who are not prostitutes, and many women who are not prostitutes also insist you use a condom.

A disadvantage of sex with prostitutes is the intimacy and companionship that are more likely to exist in a long-term relationship with one woman. However, you can experience more intimacy and companionship in a relationship with a prostitute than you might think, and an advantage of sex with prostitutes is variety, which is said to be the spice of life. In this case, the variety can do wonders for your sex drive. Being willing to have sexual experiences with prostitutes makes it easier to experience intimacy with a variety of women.

The most persuasive argument for women who are not prostitutes is your wanting to experience fatherhood, but this argument isn't applicable if that's not what you want.

A disadvantage of sex with prostitutes is the stigma of having had sex with a prostitute. However, men almost always pay for sex one way or another (one example being the cost of dating, which is almost always paid by men rather than women), and men who pay through the supposedly honorable institution of marriage usually pay the most. Marriage, although thought of as honorable, is a lot like prostitution and is much more expensive. Marriage is long-term prostitution, with the exception of marriage to a woman who either (a) earns as much or more money than you or (b) is willing to and does sign a premarital agreement keeping your and her money and property entirely separate, including money and property earned or accumulated during marriage. The extent to which women chose who to marry on the basis of their prospective husbands' wealth or income (or education and other indications of "potential" for same) varies - they tend to become more materialistic as they get older and learn the value of money - but there is considerable truth in the sometimes heard claim that an important difference between prostitutes and wives is prostitutes are more honest, since they tell you at the start what they're going to cost you, and they don't pretend they don't care about money and that they want you only because of your cute dimples or common interests or good character or how sexy or handsome you are.

Prostitution is a pay-as-you-go plan: You don't have to keep paying after you are no longer getting anything. Marriage is a keep-paying-forever-even-after-you-aren't-getting-anything plan. You don't have to pay alimony to a prostitute: In contrast to many divorced men, if you limit yourself to prostitutes and girlfriends you won't find yourself paying hundreds or thousands of dollars in alimony each month to an ex-wife who has done nothing for you during the last ten or twenty years. A prostitute is not entitled to half the money and property you accumulated while you were seeing her, nor is she entitled to half or some proportional share of your pension or retirement benefits. With prostitutes you don't need to hire a lawyer to draft an antenuptial agreement to protect you, to the limited extent possible, from today's unfair divorce laws that favor women because the politicians who enacted them were trying to win the approval of the voters, the majority of whom are female.

Accidental pregnancy usually isn't a significant risk with a prostitute, in part because prostitutes are consistently careful about contraception and in part because a prostitute who becomes pregnant will almost always terminate the pregnancy without getting you involved. If a prostitute does give birth to a child, there probably were too many men she had sex with for her to remember who they were and make them do paternity testing; she also probably won't know where to find them. So if you have sex only with prostitutes, you have very little risk of being subjected to the extortion mandated by today's child support schedules that are so high they keep you from having enough money to live a satisfying life for the next 18 or 21 years even if you have a good income because you are being forced to pay vastly greater sums of money as child support than not just your fair share of the child's actual support costs - but anywhere from two times to ten times the entire cost of raising the child. If you fall behind in child support, your child support obligation may haunt you for longer than 18 or 21 years, since the arrearage (plus interest) is still owed after the child reaches the age of adulthood. Child support required by the child support schedules in most states of the USA are so high they may also prevent you from accumulating enough money to ever be able to retire. In the USA, you may additionally lose your driver license, occupational and professional licenses, and your passport as punishment for falling more than two months behind in child support regardless of how outrageous was the amount you were ordered to pay, and regardless of factors beyond your control that made you unable to pay, such as losing your job through no fault of your own.

If you fall in love with and marry a prostitute - that does happen occasionally - you have a good chance of beating her in a court fight for custody of your child because of the stigma of her having been a prostitute - and maybe even forcing her to pay child support to you.

Sex Ploytation Part 31

Part 31

This sub chapter is called X-Rated

On a damp night in London in 1848, the art critic John Ruskin saw his new bride naked
for the first time. He was horrified. For years he had studied classical statues of the
female figure in the British Museum, but these had been chiseled out of bald marble, and
represented a censored depiction of reality. The sight of his wife's vagina pelted with
pubic hair disgusted him. He did not consummate the marriage that night, but instead
became an obsessive masturbator for the rest of his life.

Ruskin personified the Victorian Age, a cultural straightjacket which suffocated natural
desire and drove it deep underground. The Victorians considered sex to be indecent,
sinful, bestial, not to be mentioned or even alluded to in polite society. But this
forbiddance of the libido only titillated the imagination, and the Victorians saw evidence
of sex everywhere: "naked" table legs were clothed in fabric and the glimpse of a
woman's ankle could arouse a man to a frenzy of lust and shame. Encased in floor-length
gowns, women were idealized as asexual goddesses (like Ruskin's statues), and if a
young girl showed overt interest in sexual pleasure, she could easily suffer a
clitoridectomy or undergo shock treatments in a mental institution.

But the sexual urge is too ancient and too inexorable an imperative to be strangled down
by human convention. When any urgent emotion is bottled up, it will always find a way
to seep out through the cracks in the psyche. So the Victorians invented a society with a
bicameral moral code. A husband slept with his sanitized wife only for the purpose of
procreation; for pleasure, he visited a prostitute. But "pleasure" is a subjective term,
because the 19th century brothels were peculiar torture chambers which symbolized the
subterranean conflict between natural impulse and culturally enforced guilt. Many men
came to these places not for intercourse, but to be whipped with birch rods, punished like
wicked boys with dirty thoughts. When sex is forbidden, the result is perversion; and
when sex is withheld, the result is pornography and rape.

The legacy of this forbiddance reverberates through contemporary society-in fact, it is the
key to the understanding of modern sexuality and to why women are able to prostitute
themselves. The apotheosis of women into idealized goddesses was not a 19th century
inspiration, but is deeply rooted in the culture of the Western world. During the Middle
Ages, it was fashionable for knights to worship the objects of their desire from afar,
without any hope of consummation. Men even cloistered themselves in monasteries
rather than surrender to "impure" lust. The Church exerted a profound influence over
common thought during these dark ages. Almost pathologically misogynistic-after all,
Eve the Temptress had been a woman-it had condemned sex (outside of procreation) as
sinful. Such a mandate obviously segregates the genders. The secular world exalted
women, absolving them of any corrupt sensuality; the religious world vilified them. When the Renaissance blew a cleansing wind through medieval Europe, human beings
suddenly felt their pulses pounding again, as if they had just awakened from a coma.
Artists began to glorify the naked female body in floor-to-ceiling canvases vibrant with
lush skin tones. Only a few years before, the world had been flat and two-dimensional;
now perspective had been discovered, and it was like blasting a tunnel through the human
psyche.

But women were still elevated on pedestals, lavishly painted though they were. Eve the
Temptress had been canonized into Eve the Goddess. Women were abruptly glorified
into the lusty Venuses of Correggio, Titian, and Tintoretto. They began to assert their
rights to educate themselves. But the specter of the Inquisition haunted the Renaissance,
and so this was an age every bit as dichotomized as the Victorian or our era. The stink of
sinful sex still tainted the rarified air. A woman may be considered the objectification of
beauty and chastity, but she still could be a sorceress who had to be burned at the stake.
Art celebrated the female body; the Church tortured it.

This duality of submerged drives pitted against cultural restraints has plagued humanity
since the dawn of civilization. It is the difference between instinct and culture. Again, the
key is forbiddance, and it is the epicenter of problems between contemporary men and
women. Nature has programmed males to find the female body erotically stimulating3,
and society-up to a point-allows them to express these natural urges honestly. Women, on
the other hand, are taught to muzzle their sexuality, to package it and sell it. Men are
allying themselves with nature; women are warring against it. In a repressed-and
hypocritical-culture like our own, such an arrangement is pernicious because when
women taunt men with their sexuality, and then withhold it for sale, sex itself becomes
forbidden, and forbiddance is the essence of perversion.

3 Studies prove that the size of the female breast has nothing whatever to do with the amount of milk
production. Therefore it must be assumed that the breast's primary function is a sexual attractant.

And perversion needs only to lean an inch or two in the wrong direction and the result is
sex crime. Individual sex crime (for example, urban rape as we know it) was virtually
unknown until the 19th century, when the clamps were screwed down on sexuality and
women began to overtly practice dishonest prostitution. This was partly due to the
stranglehold the Church had locked on people's imagination (if you sinned, you would go
directly to hell), and partly because prostitution or lust in general was culturally endorsed.
But the Victorians made the mistake of pushing it too far: it is one thing to preach that
sex is sinful, but quite another to dam it up as if it doesn't exist at all. The result was the
bursting of the dam. In 1892, the psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing published his
Psychopathia Sexualis, a weighty volume which detailed some of the weirdest aberrations
ever conceived by the human mind. Two centuries before, languishing in the Bastille
where he would spend a good part of his adult life, the Marquis de Sade indulged in
fantasies about torturing women. But his writings were like the tantrums of a wicked little
boy who delighted in shocking the proper people around him-that is to say, his crimes
were of the imagination. But Victorian London spawned the monster Jack the Ripper. De
Sade might have daydreamed about flogging prostitutes; Jack the Ripper disemboweled
them.

Our contemporary culture is sanctimonious, simultaneously prudishly repressed and
openly licentious. A good example of this phenomenon can be seen in the entertainment
industry. Mainstream movies regularly display naked bodies and peep in on sex acts, but
on television nudity and overt intercourse are an eternal taboo. The message is clear: sex
must be paid for-you have to shell out the price of a ticket if you want to see breasts or
butts. Society still idealizes women as goddesses with a sanitized sexuality-or no
sexuality at all while men are seen as vile deviants, consumed by "dirty" thoughts. When
a man makes a pass at a woman, he's a lecher "with only one thing on his mind", but
when a woman ogles a man's behind, everybody thinks it's cute and chic. If a woman
subscribes to Cosmopolitan or Playgirl, she's hip and liberated; but if a man even casually
flips through a Penthouse, he's a "pig". When a woman goes topless or wriggles into a
thong bikini, only dowdy old ladies complain; but if a man exposes himself, he is hauled
off to jail. Men who want to volunteer as scout troop leaders or to teach grade school
classes are looked on with suspicion of being child molesters, but women perform these
roles with impunity. The clear implication is that men are sexual, women are not; women
are pure, men are dirty beasts.

The modern incarnation of forbiddance is withheld sex, the sex of dishonest prostitution.
It is a scourge which lacerates male society; it is the root cause of the escalation of sex
crime. Rape is not an act of domination and violence, but a criminal short-cut out of
frustration. Women rightly condemn rape, and, as always, blame men for its occurrence,
but the truth is that every time a woman withholds sex, or tantalizes men with her body to
get what she wants, or offers herself only to men with money, she is deliberately creating
the conditions for her abuse. Rape is entirely a woman's fault. If a man can't afford to buy
a woman-that is, date or get married what is he to do? If he is a criminal, he rapes; if he is
an average guy, he rents an adult movie.

As it was in Victorian Europe, the modern pornography business is booming. A variety of
magazines, sex phone lines, and especially home videos are abounding. Internet
entrepreneurs are making a fortune with sex-oriented web sites. Obviously a need for
such eroticism exists, and such a need does not occur in a vacuum. Pornography exists
because women are withholding sex and selling their bodies to the highest bidder, and
most men can't afford them. A generation of foolish women, cocooned in their
"romantic" fantasies and in denial of their venality, desperately listening to the tick of
their biological clocks until "Mr. Right" magically rings the doorbell, would rather stay
home alone on Saturday night than "waste time" on a date with a man who earns an
average income. They cling and wait while their flesh sags and wrinkles crackle their
faces, still kidding themselves that their mummifying vaginas are still worth paying for.
These aging whores fail to realize (or admit to themselves) that the men they desire know
that they are quite able to buy women, and the women of their dreams are young and
firm-fleshed and bursting with life.

When the "average" man is sneered at, and denied an outlet for his sexuality, the result is
painful frustration. To men, sex is one of the great joys of being alive. But testosterone
makes this a commandment rather than a choice. Pornography helps displace some of this
inner tension-it bleeds off frustration. Adult movies portray women being sexual because
they like it, because it feels good, not because a man has bought them dinner. No time is
wasted in "romantic" head games. A man without adequate means cannot hope to court
and win a woman, but for a rental fee he can interact, for an hour or two at least, with
women normal and unrestrained about their sexuality. The sex may be two-dimensional,
but it's honest, and the price is right.

Feminists rant that pornography objectifies and degrades women, but nothing could be
further from the truth. Such an unenlightened interpretation only underscores their
hysterical
agenda. Men's magazines and X-rated films glorify the female body. They celebrate
women, not as abstract ideals, but as real people enjoying their sensuality. And this is
precisely what the feminists can't stand, and why they have to screech so loudly against
pornography. When sex is forbidden, prostitution thrives-it is a gold mine for females.
Natural lust and honest sexuality are virulent threats to the average woman, the dishonest
whore. Feminists condemn pornography not because it dishonors women, but because,
like rape, it is sex without charge.